Working to much this week

As salam alikum Readers 

I have been super busy this week with work that I haven’t been able to do much else yes I know thats crazy.

This week alone I have worked from 8 am until 230pm and then from 3 pm until 8pm on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday on Saturday I worked from 930 am to 230 pm and 3pm until 8 pm the job I work at is very physical and now I am feeling it in my back and arms as well as my knees .

I lift boxes during the whole shift some boxes are really heavy up to 58 pounds or more the really heavy ones even with another person are hard to lift.

My left knee hurts to bend , after work last night I soaked in a hot bath for about half a hour when I got out I applied icy hot to my sore muscles but it did ‘t really help and I am still sore will bring it to my doctors attion when I go see her on Thursday of next week.

I am looking forward to my days off next Wednesday and Thursday. 

I will post more when I feel rested and less sore.

Ramadan 2017 

As Salam Alikum Readers

Ramadan has began and I feel alone and lonely , haven’t been having a easy time and I have been dealing with health issues my iron storage levels or ferritin levels as the doctors call it is very low and I was told by two different doctors not to fast.

I have also been struggling with my mood disorder and feeling alone even though I am constantly surrounded by people , I work five days a week and am around people but don’t really hang out with or interact with anyone I am polite and make small talk but I don’t really know anyone if that makes sense.

I haven’t been feeling myself I have been dealing with sleep issues I have a hard time falling and staying asleep it doesn’t help that my husband has restless leg syndrome and kicks at night, I’ve tried putting pillows between us but all that did was cause a fight over the pillows ugh…..

I feel discouraged and disconnected from everything I am having trouble with my prayers and most of the time during prayers and right before bedtime I find myself crying.

Dealing With Mood Changes …..

As Salam Alikum Readers

I haven’t been writing as much as I would like , I have been struggling with a few things . Feeling connected to my children is one of them , let me explain here a bit in depth, myself and my husband decided it would be best for their education if they went to school in Morocco and before February of this year I was with the children then I had to return to the USA and I’m missing my children, I chat with them through WhatsApp and get tons of pictures but it’s not the same as holding and hugging them chasing them around the house , I miss the mundane chores and activities I did with the children I miss them jumping on me in the morning and running to show me their latest drawings as well as their latest boo boo even if said boo boo doesn’t actually exist.

Another thing I’ve been struggling with is my health still trying to figure out why I get stomach aches because of this I have decided to remove cows milk out of my diet which is a lot harder than it sounds. I ran out of milk a few days ago and asked my husband not to buy anymore milk , he doesn’t really drink milk but he loves buttermilk but milk and buttermilk are completely different and I don’t care for the taste of buttermilk , I do like goats milk and it doesn’t upset my stomach so I just switched types of milk. I’m also trying to give up added sugar so today was the last day of the sugar I don’t plan on buying more don’t really have a need for sugar in my house my husband is diabetic and shouldn’t eat sugar so no more sugar for us. Also trying to decrease the amount of breads we eat there are healthier options aside from bread and breads turn into simple sugars when broken down by the body.

Will post a update on the progress in about a month, in sha Allah.

The Different Types Of Patience

The Different Types Of Patience
We constantly hear about patience in Islam. There are many verses and hadeeth which tell us to be patient. Many of us have grown up being told by our parents, elders, teachers and even friends that we need to be patient. For those that were patient they were told to be more patient. So whether or not we as a people were raised in Islam or not we were brought up on this word patient for the most part. The only thing missing was the fact that not to many of us had someone sit us down and explain to us what this patience its and how is it properly applied. Most of us are adults now, and we see that how patience is practiced changes depending on the situation.

The situation we want to talk about today is patience in Islam. We see that over and over Allah commands us with patience. Like where he commands {Seek aid though patience and prayer} (2:45). In the same Surah He commands the believers with {Oh you who believe, seek assistance though patience and and prayer…} (2:153). Now in order to carry out what we have been commanded with in terms of seeking assistance through patience we need to understand exactly how we do this.

Sheikh Zaid al Madkhali made this ever so clear in his explanation to the well known book The Three Fundamental Principles. This is what we wanted to share with you today. About this subject of patience the Sheikh said while explaining about those that call one another to patience that this patience must be in different things. Here is what the Sheikh explained;

This is patience in all of its types, which are;

 

The first type is patience upon Allah’s obedience. This means that the individual does that which Allah has commanded of him desiring Allah’s reward, and fearing his punishment for falling short.

 

The second type is patience upon the disobedience of Allah. So he stays away from Allah’s disobedience because of all of the danger that comes with it in this life, in the grave and in the here after. The previous nations (that Allah informed us of in His book) who came before were not destroyed except due to their disobedience. From them are those that Allah drowned. From them are those that were destroyed by natural disasters. As well, from there are those that the earth swallowed up. How ever they were destroyed, it was because of their disobedience to Allah. This is because Allah loves to be obeyed and not disobeyed. So we see that disobeying Him leads to His anger, displeasure and painful punishment. This makes clear that one of the types of patience is to be patient in terms of the disobedience of Allah. Again this means to stay away from disobeying Allah. If a person does fall into disobedience then they hurry and turn back to Allah in sincere repentance. They try their hardest to follow up a bad deeds with good deeds. Allah said in His book {Verily the good deeds wipe away the bad deeds} (11:114).

 

The third type of patience is the patience in Allah’s decree and his rule over his slaves. Nothing moves in the universe, nothing happens or come about except that Allah is the one that is in control of it. So there has to be patience. Patience is a must when dealing with things that effect us in ourselves, our children, our money or other then these things which are from the sunnah of Allah in the creation.You will find that the creation is tried with all types of afflictions. You see that this one is afflicted with poverty, that one with sickness, this one with worry etc. Nothing helps in these stiautions excpet patinece, and looking forward to the reward that will come from Allah. This is done by looking forward to the reward of the patient ones to whom Allah has given glad tidings to when He said, {And give glad tidings to the patient} (2:155). Also Allah said {Verliy the patient will be given their reward with no reconing} (39:10). Becasue of the great position patince holds we find that Allah advised the Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessing be upon him) when He said to Him {and be patient, verily your patience is from none but Allah} (16:127). Allah taught Him that patience was from the characteristics of the Prophets {Be patient just like the Messengers of strong will} (46:35). As well, He praised the people of intellect in His statement {But it is only the men of understanding that pay heed. Those that fuflil their covenant with Allah and do not break it. Those who join the things that Allah has commanded that they be joined, the fear their Lord and a terible reconing} To the statement of Allah {And those that have patience seeking the face of their Lord.} (13:19-22).

So it is necessary to define patience by that type that is done for the purpose of seeing the face of Allah and the here after. The purpose of patience is not to be said about someone that he is of the people of patience and the likes. But rather what is meant is the type of patience that nothing is wanted by it other then the face of Allah. This is because it is from the best of the types of worship that must be practiced by the people of Islam, and Emaan and Ihsaan.

In conclustion we see here that the sheikh not only has cleared up for us what is meantby this patience that we have been commanded with, but also explained how we are supposed to carry this patience out in all aspects of our lives. May Allah make us of those that are patient and do all that we do solely for his sake. May He also make us of thosse that hear the truth and act accordingly. Allahuma ameen.

My Last Goodbye 

My Last Goodbye

The time has come for my “last goodbye”, 

On this earth, 

Thought I would let you know, 

For all its worth 

This “last goodbye”, 

Today, 

Doesn’t mean, 

I want see you again, 

Someday.

I know you’re not in that body, 

I see. 

But it’s all that’s left on this earth, 

For me. 

With God, 

And my children, 

By my side,

 I’m trying to say, 

“My last goodbye.”

 All I ask,

 Is strength from Allah , 

To see me through, 

To say, 

“My last goodbye”, 

To you. 

My heart may be broken, 

But with Allah by your side, 

The hunger, 

Suffering and pain, 

Will no longer be inside. 

So, 

Sweet peace to you, 

As you take that final ride.

“My last goodbye”, 

To you, 

My precious babies

Today, 

Allah , 

Has you now, 

Forever, in his bosom 

( This poem is for all my babies that I lost due to miscarriages)

Standing Before Allah 

As Salam Alaikum,When I stand before my lord on the Last Day

I want to be able to say I loved her for His sake.

When I am asked about how I treated her

I want to be able to say like a sister,

Like family, like a dear and close friend.

When I am in need of intercession on that,

Tremendous Day,

I want her to intercede for me by Allah’s mercy and grace.

When my soul has departed from this life,

I want her to wash and shroud my body-

Remembering my good deeds,

Overlooking my evil.

I want her to care for my children

I leave behind as if they were her own.

I want her not to shed too many tears when

I am gone,

Instead,

I want her to smile,

That beautiful smile

She has

Cherishing what we were blessed with in this life,

Praying for even better in the next!

Lifestyle of Prophet Muhammad pbuh

Talk softly,
Walk humbly,
Eat sensibly,
Breathe deeply,
Sleep sufficiently,
Dress properly,
Interact politely,
Act fearlessly,
Work patiently,
Think truthfully,
Believe correctly,
Behave decently,
Learn practically,
Plan orderly,
Earn honestly,
Spend intelligently,
Sacrifice regularly,
Worship dedicatedly,
Serve parents happily,
Respect neighbours appropriately …

May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him. Aameen